How often do we concede to doing something that we really don’t want to do? How often do we then turn around and resent the person for asking us for the favor? Or blame someone else for not having enough time and energy to get done what we need to? Whether it’s something for a… Read More »
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5 ways that we self sabotage
Does it seem that you seldom get what you want? Does it seem that you come second to others or their needs? Why can’t you ever seem to get a break? Or why does it seem as if “nobody understands you”? We play a key role when we aren’t getting what we want or need,… Read More »
Your partner won’t change? Here’s what might be getting in the way.
Many of us have been in a relationship that eventually begs the question of “will my partner ever change?” “What is reasonable change to ask for them to do? Is this just “who they are?” “Should I wait for them to change or should we end this?” The answer looks like this: It’s very important… Read More »
Your partner can’t read your mind. 3 things to ask yourself.
Yeah, yeah. We all know that our partners can’t read our minds. But do we really get what that means? Are you frustrated that you can’t seem to get what you need? Are you not feeling understood by your partner? Ask yourself these things: Did you actually tell your partner what you want him/her to… Read More »
What some troubled marriages are lacking
The most often heard comment in my office a few weeks into couples counseling: “I honestly thought we would come into counseling and you’d tell us that HE was the one who needed most of the work! Now I can see where my own stuff is adding to the problems we are having.” It is… Read More »
5 ways to deal with procrastination
I recently wrote about what procrastination isn’t and a bit about what it is, or what it might be. You can find that post here. I believe one of the biggest misnomers about procrastination is that it is synonymous with being “lazy”. Not only do I think that procrastination has nothing to do with being… Read More »
The cost of maturity
I saw this bottle cap at my friend’s house yesterday. I think this is a battle worth fighting, with one caveat. Do allow maturity to enhance your life. Don’t give up in life what fuels your spirit.
5 reasons procrastination has nothing to do with “being lazy”
The bane of my existence. The thorn in my pride. A pain in the a** (for others). Say it with me. “I am a procrastinator”. Now, for those that aren’t procrastinators, I say congratulations. I have no ill will towards you. My wife is a non-procrastinator and I derive endless inspiration from her tireless energy… Read More »
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t
One moment you’re so sure that your mind and intuition are telling you the right things. “I can’t tell him no. He’s going to be really upset if I do that.” “Don’t take the chance, there’s too much to lose.” “Nobody really cares what I have to say anyway. It’s a waste of time.” The… Read More »
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »