How well do you know yourself?
On a sheet of paper, track how many of the following questions you answer "yes" to. The more "yes" answers you have, the less satisfaction and balance you will tend to have. Men tend to experience stress, depression, mood problems, relationship problems, emotional numbness, lack of direction and motivation, loss of confidence and self esteem, and just generally feeling helpless or being "stuck". This might be the first time you've seen some of these very questions presented to you though you've been wrestling with them your entire life or adult life.
- Do you struggle with seeing yourself as “worthy” or have needs as “worthy” as other people’s?
- Do you struggle with seeing yourself at times as overly judgmental or critical of others?
- Do you tend to feel irritable and moody and not know why?
- Do you tend to feel low mood or depressed?
- Do you notice you have a hard time in identifying your emotions?
- Do you have a hard time in expressing your emotions or expressing them with certain people?
- When you are angry do you find yourself harboring resentment or lashing out in rage finding it hard to have a “middle ground”?
- Does your spouse tell you that you are “distant” or “hard to read”?
- Do you have a hard time in connecting with other men about things that are emotional or sensitive only comfortable with “surface talk”?
- Do you wish that you would have had a better relationship with your father or have had closer relationships with other men in your family?
- Do you find yourself having to be “someone else” just to please others or please your spouse?
- Do you feel that you will “never measure up” or that you’re a failure?
- Do you feel sensitive to criticism from your spouse or feel like you can’t do anything “right”?
- Do you feel guilty or shameful about not spending enough quality time with your spouse and/or family?
- Do you have a hard time not thinking about work while at home and with family?
- Do you sense that you don’t have a clear purpose in your work but do it to just provide for your family?
- Do you feel “lost” when not able to solve a problem for people or your spouse or family?
- Do you feel “lost” when not working on your work or career?
- Do you tend to want to spend time by yourself or doing things on your own?
- Do you experience anxiety or discomfort when listening to other people’s problems and emotions or your spouses problems?
- Do you have a lack of motivation or energy when waking up in the morning?
- Do you wonder or worry about “middle age” and what it means to your identity or ability to feel engaged and excited about life?
- Do you wonder if you get hyper focused on hobby activities or things that take little emotional or mental effort?
- Do you avoid taking risks in getting your wants and needs met or in communicating them in your relationship?
- Do you find yourself at a loss when describing your wants and needs?
- Do you have a hard time in putting your phone down or disconnecting from your email?
- Do you put off connecting with your friends or making friends?
- Do you have a hard time in connecting with your spouse?
- Do you tend to have a lack of feelings or feel numb or lost?
- Do you tend to want to connect with others but don’t know how?
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