You weren’t always like this.
There was a time when you were excited about things. When you had goals that actually mattered to you. Not just what you thought you were supposed to want.
You used to take risks. You used to feel alive.
Now?
“I used to have a desire for life. Now I’m just making it through the week.”
If that’s where you’re at, I get it.
And here’s what I know: You didn’t lose your desire.
It’s still there. It’s just buried under years of “should” and “have to” and “I can’t.”
You spent so long performing. Proving you’re good enough, responsible enough, successful enough that you forgot what you actually want.
You traded desire for obligation.
Risk for responsibility.
Excitement for exhaustion.
And now you’re here. Going through the motions. Checking the boxes. Making it through.
But that’s not living.
That’s surviving.
When you stop challenging yourself, when you stop living the way you actually want, your body responds.
Low desire isn’t just mental. It’s physical.
Your testosterone drops. Your energy tanks. Your confidence fades. Your drive disappears.
You think you’re just tired. But your body is reacting because you’ve stopped engaging with life.
You’re maintaining. Managing. Playing it safe.
And your body knows the difference between surviving and thriving.
When you’re not challenging yourself, not taking risks, not going after what you want, everything suffers.
Your energy. Your confidence. Your sex drive. Your presence at home.
It all connects.
Another year goes by and you’re still in the same place.
Still tired. Still disconnected. Still wondering when you’re going to feel like yourself again.
Your kids get older. Your relationship gets more routine. The opportunities you didn’t take become regrets you can’t shake.
The worst part?
You accept it. You start to believe this is just how it is. The guy who had fire is gone.
That guy isn’t gone.
He’s just running a pattern that’s keeping him stuck.
And when you see the pattern, you can change it.
You don’t need to “find your passion” or “rediscover yourself.”
You need to stop running the program that’s draining your desire in the first place.
When you do, everything shifts. Energy comes back. Confidence returns. You start showing up differently.
At work, at home, with yourself.
I’m opening a program in early 2026 for men who are done going through the motions.
Men who want their desire back. Their energy back. Their life back.
More details coming soon.
John
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