You weren’t always like this. There was a time when you were excited about things. When you had goals that actually mattered to you. Not just what you thought you were supposed to want. You used to take risks. You used to feel alive. Now? “I used to have a desire for life. Now I’m… Read More »
You’re More Than Just Tired: Why High-Performing Men Burn Out
Thanksgiving was great this year. Super laid back. Time with my family doing the simple things. Good conversation. Taking time to enjoy prepping food. Slowing down. Man, I need more of this. There was still some stress with my kids fighting a bit, and the grocery store crowd was insane. But when you slow down,… Read More »
Why You’re Living Paycheck to Paycheck (And You Don’t Even Know It)
Never attend a timeshare presentation. Years ago, my wife and I booked an incredible hotel room for the weekend. With one catch: We had to attend a timeshare presentation. The moment we walked in, they told us: “This is fun. There’s no pressure.” Then they said it again. “This is fun.” We looked at each… Read More »
Why You Feel Like You’re Getting Old (And Why You’re Wrong)
There are moments that make you rethink who you are. I didn’t think one of these would happen in the gym. I was 38 when my first daughter was just a few years old. At that time I was a dad approaching 40. Is this the terrible mid-life phase people talk about? I remember thinking:… Read More »
You Don’t Need More Discipline. You Need More Trust.
I’ve been practicing. Trying to be more patient with my daughter. A better listener. The kind of dad who doesn’t lose it over algebra homework. It’s 10pm on a Tuesday. She’s staring at her homework like it personally betrayed her. “Dad, why do I even need to learn this?” And there it is. The moment… Read More »
Self-Improvement Shouldn’t Feel Like Work
What if your pursuit of self-improvement has become another form of self-avoidance? You can study and emulate what you want to be true. But never experience the truth of being. Taking risks. Evolving. We spend most of our lives trying to move from one station in life to the next. Get good grades. Get into… Read More »
Your Need to Control is Why You Feel Stuck and Overwhelmed
Being in control isn’t keeping you safe. It’s keeping you stuck. It’s keeping you burned out. It’s keeping you frustrated. Every time you micromanage your work, relationships, family, the conversations in your head, and every decision, you aren’t actually living life. You’re not creating certainty. You’re creating a cycle of struggle. I’m in the middle… Read More »
Stop Overthinking. Start Trusting.
What if the solution to your mental stress and overwhelm isn’t more thinking, but more trust? I hate losing. But sometimes you’re going to fall short. You can’t be all the things you want to be all the time. You are going to fail at something. It’s going to happen. Last week was one of… Read More »
Your Identity Beyond Roles: Navigating Life’s Transitions
You never want to admit it’s coming. But I knew when I planned the latest family camping trip, the words I dreaded were possible. “Yeah, Dad, I’m going to hang out with my friends instead.” “Sure, no problem, that’s ok”, I responded. But honestly, it’s tough. Not just the latest attempt to plan family fun…. Read More »
Your Failures Are Your Way Out
Just when you think you have it all figured out. You don’t. I took a trip last weekend to Maine with my wife for our 15th wedding anniversary. Everything was great. The accommodations were amazing. The weather was incredible. If you’ve ever been to the Maine coast, you know how special it is. We were… Read More »