You never want to admit it’s coming. But I knew when I planned the latest family camping trip, the words I dreaded were possible. “Yeah, Dad, I’m going to hang out with my friends instead.” “Sure, no problem, that’s ok”, I responded. But honestly, it’s tough. Not just the latest attempt to plan family fun…. Read More »
Your Failures Are Your Way Out
Just when you think you have it all figured out. You don’t. I took a trip last weekend to Maine with my wife for our 15th wedding anniversary. Everything was great. The accommodations were amazing. The weather was incredible. If you’ve ever been to the Maine coast, you know how special it is. We were… Read More »
Leveraging Life’s Challenges for Breakthrough
This is a video I did a few days ago reflecting on the challenges we naturally face in our lives and how we can take a different perspective. Is it better to avoid discomfort or work through it? Emotional discomfort. Physical discomfort. Negative thinking. We use a tremendous amount of our mind’s energy attempting to… Read More »
Why You’re Not Actually Stuck (and How to Break Free)
“I’m stuck” might be the one of the most expensive lie we ever tell ourselves. Everybody has been there. Most people are there right now. Some people live most of their lives not knowing what they want. Then on top that, not knowing what to do to get “unstuck”. It costs us our time, energy,… Read More »
The Biggest Blindspot Men Have
(and an intro into the Life Made Conscious Community) Going It On Your Own Nothing is done in a vacuum. Nothing great is accomplished in isolation. When we are in a mode of “I need to prove it to myself” is when we learn the inevitable lesson of humility. Once I prove to myself I… Read More »
Why Quick Fixes Keep Men Stuck
Beyond Surface-Level Solutions Why tips and quick fixes aren’t working It’s easy to find step oriented solutions to problems. The problem is that without direct feedback, we cannot go to the deeper levels that our inner issues require. The problem with content that stays in the realm of ideas Men are already wired to stay… Read More »
Why Men Are Starved For Connection, Purpose, and Growth
When was the last time you had a conversation with another man that went beyond work, sports, or something surface-level? For the men I work with, the answer is usually: “I can’t remember,”or“I used to do that but I don’t have those types of relationships anymore.” This is just the beginning of what’s going wrong…. Read More »
What My 13 Year Old Taught Me About Self Concept
My wife and I noticed that our oldest daughter, at an early age, was extremely shy around people she didn’t know. Not uncommon for kids. When she was at school her teachers would say that she was often softspoken. She would shrink and hide with her friends. My daughter is not a quiet person. At… Read More »
Stop Drifting: Ask What You Really Want in Life
Here’s what happens when we don’t ask what we truly want. We drift. Operating from old patterns, we do the same thing over and over without question. We disconnect. Relationships happen in the present, but we’re stuck in our heads, solving problems that don’t matter. We distract ourselves — with social media, TV, politics —… Read More »
Lost in Midlife? You’re Not Broken — You’re Waking Up
It was my last day at the last job I would ever have as an employee. I was leaving my stable job with great benefits to start my own therapy business. For the first time in my adult life, I was making a career move based solely on what I wanted. Sure, I had chosen… Read More »