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A New Year’s resolution: Stop making resolutions
Happy New Year, everybody. Another year down and it’s that time of year that we start looking forward into what the new year can bring us. What can we do better? What changes can we make that will improve our lives? How can we become “brand new” people and overcome those long standing struggles? My… Read More »
Quotes from the inner critic. Things “successful” people say to themselves.
Negative self talk. It’s real. Everybody deals with it. Even those people that we see as having their “shit together”. I asked this question to various professionals, psychologists, counselors, and designers…”When your inner critic is at it’s worst, what does it say to you?” Various professionals ages 30-52 years old answered. Here’s what they said…. Read More »
How to stop being passive aggressive with your partner (say what you really want to say)
A couple that’s been coming to see me for couples counseling for a few weeks has an on-going problem. Like many couples with marital issues, Jenn and Kyle have communication issues. Their particular issue is that they don’t know how to express their anger with one another without being passive aggressive. They’re unable to effectively… Read More »
How to be ok with not getting the last word
It feels really good to be “right”. To be able to win that argument and get that last word in. You have just spent a tremendous amount of energy in arguing with your partner, or whoever it might be. The last thing you want to do is to let go, stop, and not “win”. So… Read More »
Why improving self esteem is hard
Most of us have some area of ourselves that we don’t feel very good about. People might tell us “you’re fine!” or “don’t worry about it!”. But it’s not that easy. Some of us don’t feel good about ourselves at all. It’s hard for some people to think they’re good at anything. A failure at… Read More »
Redefining masculinity by what it is. Not what it isn’t.
A couple of years ago I attended a workshop on relationship counseling. The room was packed with therapists looking to hear an esteemed author give his take on how to help couples reconcile their relational struggles. The ratio of women therapists to male therapists in the audience was about 80 to 20, women to men…. Read More »
The “shoulding” reflex and how it affects you
I stumbled upon this article the other day. “30 things every grown ass person should stop doing by the time they turn 30”. In the post it lists these behaviors that all grown adults should cease as they turn 30 years old. I found I missed the cut on a few of the author’s requirements… Read More »
What’s with all the anger and division?
Everyone has to have noticed what seems to be an increase in violence, anger, and division in the world. There’s something tragic to see or hear about everyday. Everybody wants there to be some peace and resolution but there’s no one consensus to how to help. The world is rapidly changing. We can’t deny it…. Read More »
What is the difference in being assertive vs. being aggressive?
Have you ever been told “you need to be more assertive?” But what does that mean? How do you know if in your attempt to be more assertive, you won’t be coming across to people as aggressive? Being assertive is necessary to get what you want and need. But if you’re worried about how you’ll… Read More »