One moment you’re so sure that your mind and intuition are telling you the right things. “I can’t tell him no. He’s going to be really upset if I do that.” “Don’t take the chance, there’s too much to lose.” “Nobody really cares what I have to say anyway. It’s a waste of time.” The… Read More »
Self help
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »
Attending to our emotional hygiene
We really do take our emotional health for granted. We pay attention to our physical health in various ways, such as through diet and exercise, but we continually allow ourselves to cross our own boundaries internally. How often do we allow our own self talk to say things to us we’d never allow someone else… Read More »
Change is always an inside job
(This, like many topics that I deal with concerning my clients, also hits home for me. Remembering who is responsible for change seems like a common sense concept. However, it never hurts to be reminded of the simple things. I know I appreciate it when I am reminded.) Much of my time interacting with my… Read More »
Moving from judgement to compassion
How do we begin to understand others, when it can be difficult to understand ourselves? Why is it that we insist that we have the answers for those around us when we too struggle to change? People can seem to annoy us, piss us off, and cause us pain. We say “if they would just… Read More »
Exercise as a solution for anxiety?
The concept of mind, body, and spirit is a commonly held idea that we possess different aspects of self that make up the total self. We think and rationalize with the mind. We use our body to manifest our thoughts physically and we take in sensory experiences through our 5 physical senses. Our “spirit” is commonly referred to as… Read More »
What does “finding yourself” mean?
(I’m writing this on vacation. The last couple days my father-in-law and I have had some really good conversations, by the ocean and poolside, that got me thinking about how my life has changed in the last 10 years or so. This is, in a way, a reflection looking back at a part of the… Read More »
In defense of meditation and silence
Our daily schedules follow a routine that align with our roles and responsibilities. Work, parenting, interacting with others, etc. Constant action and motion. The noise from our outside environment permeates into our heads. Take a moment to stop and sit in silence. Notice the “noise” going on in your head. Is it busy? Is it… Read More »