I hope you’re doing well wherever you are. Life is full of things we can measure. Things like money, grades, scores, can be clearly seen as a result. Good? Bad? Pass? Fail? You don’t have to be a math nerd or a genius to appreciate the value of good old number based subject matters. But… Read More »
Self help
The illusion of needing to “prove ourselves”
Do you ever have those moments of clarity when you say to yourself “of course, that makes sense” or “I know this to be true and I can feel it in my gut”? Funny how that works. I was talking to a trusted friend of mine recently and the topic of “providing proof” came up. … Read More »
Am I a Narcissist? (video)
You’ve probably noticed the buzz lately around the concept of narcissism and narcissists. But narcissism is rare. Grandiose behavior is not. In fact, almost all of us act out in grandiose ways that interfere in our relationships. In this video I am going to go over where we all display these disruptive behaviors. I talk… Read More »
Podcast: What Men Need in Therapy
I’ve been busy lately guest blogging and doing some podcast interviews on my approach working with men in individual therapy as well as couples therapy. There are specific needs and challenges for men when they approach therapy. I recently was interviewed on the Practice of Being Seen podcast with Rebecca Wong who is a couples… Read More »
The comparison game is killing us
Maybe the tendency for humans to compare what they have, or what they want, with others is as old as human behavior itself. We all seem to do the comparison thing and we don’t have to go very far to be exposed to it. Facebook, Instagram, the media. Our neighbors, our family, our friends. Maybe… Read More »
If achievements and behavior don’t define who we are, what does?
The past few years watching my kids grow has been interesting to say the least. Aside from the joy of being a parent, the struggles that come with it, and the endless self reflection on my “parenting abilities”, I’ve noticed something profound. When children are born and when they are young they don’t question… Read More »
How gratitude can help you even if you hate hearing about gratitude
“Be Thankful!” “Drop the Negativity!” “Embrace the Positivity!” We hear the messages on social media. We see people who seem they can live life effortlessly in their bubble of peace. We’ve all got those people in our lives that express positive vibes as effortlessly as breathing. But for many of us, it doesn’t come that… Read More »
People just don’t care that much about you
“Whoa!!! Did you just say that?” Yes, I did. But let me explain. People do care about you, and others, just not for the reasons we tend to think. The last several years of my life I’ve been interested in learning more about human consciousness. Here’s what I’m constantly learning. What we think and who… Read More »
Getting “burned out”? Stop fighting it.
Not long ago I was in my old office asking myself “when is this going to turn for me?” I had persistent and overwhelming feelings of being “stuck” and a lack of fulfillment with my work. I lacked a clear sense of direction. Sure, I’d get done what needed to get done but I was… Read More »
A New Year’s resolution: Stop making resolutions
Happy New Year, everybody. Another year down and it’s that time of year that we start looking forward into what the new year can bring us. What can we do better? What changes can we make that will improve our lives? How can we become “brand new” people and overcome those long standing struggles? My… Read More »