Who hasn’t been disappointed in the lack of progress? Who hasn’t wondered if things will ever turn around for them? Of course we know that feeling frustration about things feeling stagnated is a part of life. One step forward, two steps back? Maybe. Maybe not. One of the most common things I hear from clients… Read More »
Self esteem
When is Your “Good” Good Enough?
I hope you’re doing well wherever you are. Life is full of things we can measure. Things like money, grades, scores, can be clearly seen as a result. Good? Bad? Pass? Fail? You don’t have to be a math nerd or a genius to appreciate the value of good old number based subject matters. But… Read More »
The illusion of needing to “prove ourselves”
Do you ever have those moments of clarity when you say to yourself “of course, that makes sense” or “I know this to be true and I can feel it in my gut”? Funny how that works. I was talking to a trusted friend of mine recently and the topic of “providing proof” came up. … Read More »
The comparison game is killing us
Maybe the tendency for humans to compare what they have, or what they want, with others is as old as human behavior itself. We all seem to do the comparison thing and we don’t have to go very far to be exposed to it. Facebook, Instagram, the media. Our neighbors, our family, our friends. Maybe… Read More »
If achievements and behavior don’t define who we are, what does?
The past few years watching my kids grow has been interesting to say the least. Aside from the joy of being a parent, the struggles that come with it, and the endless self reflection on my “parenting abilities”, I’ve noticed something profound. When children are born and when they are young they don’t question… Read More »
People just don’t care that much about you
“Whoa!!! Did you just say that?” Yes, I did. But let me explain. People do care about you, and others, just not for the reasons we tend to think. The last several years of my life I’ve been interested in learning more about human consciousness. Here’s what I’m constantly learning. What we think and who… Read More »
A New Year’s resolution: Stop making resolutions
Happy New Year, everybody. Another year down and it’s that time of year that we start looking forward into what the new year can bring us. What can we do better? What changes can we make that will improve our lives? How can we become “brand new” people and overcome those long standing struggles? My… Read More »
Quotes from the inner critic. Things “successful” people say to themselves.
Negative self talk. It’s real. Everybody deals with it. Even those people that we see as having their “shit together”. I asked this question to various professionals, psychologists, counselors, and designers…”When your inner critic is at it’s worst, what does it say to you?” Various professionals ages 30-52 years old answered. Here’s what they said…. Read More »
Your spouse doesn’t have to be your “best friend”. Here’s why.
It sounds perfect. Not only is your husband or wife your husband or wife, but they’re also your best friend. For those couples that can claim this as part of their marital bliss, they really have the best of both worlds. But not all couples are best friends. Nor do they have to be. That’s… Read More »
Why improving self esteem is hard
Most of us have some area of ourselves that we don’t feel very good about. People might tell us “you’re fine!” or “don’t worry about it!”. But it’s not that easy. Some of us don’t feel good about ourselves at all. It’s hard for some people to think they’re good at anything. A failure at… Read More »