Most of us have some area of ourselves that we don’t feel very good about. People might tell us “you’re fine!” or “don’t worry about it!”. But it’s not that easy. Some of us don’t feel good about ourselves at all. It’s hard for some people to think they’re good at anything. A failure at… Read More »
Frustration
What’s with all the anger and division?
Everyone has to have noticed what seems to be an increase in violence, anger, and division in the world. There’s something tragic to see or hear about everyday. Everybody wants there to be some peace and resolution but there’s no one consensus to how to help. The world is rapidly changing. We can’t deny it…. Read More »
Your partner won’t change? Here’s what might be getting in the way.
Many of us have been in a relationship that eventually begs the question of “will my partner ever change?” “What is reasonable change to ask for them to do? Is this just “who they are?” “Should I wait for them to change or should we end this?” The answer looks like this: It’s very important… Read More »
Your partner can’t read your mind. 3 things to ask yourself.
Yeah, yeah. We all know that our partners can’t read our minds. But do we really get what that means? Are you frustrated that you can’t seem to get what you need? Are you not feeling understood by your partner? Ask yourself these things: Did you actually tell your partner what you want him/her to… Read More »
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t
One moment you’re so sure that your mind and intuition are telling you the right things. “I can’t tell him no. He’s going to be really upset if I do that.” “Don’t take the chance, there’s too much to lose.” “Nobody really cares what I have to say anyway. It’s a waste of time.” The… Read More »
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »
Moving beyond non-productive arguments
(Preface: Communication and relationship issues with partner, spouses, or even friends and family can be very complex. This blog might highlight what is a small portion of what goes into various aspects of why we argue with certain people or in certain situations.) For those people with kids, imagine this common scenario. You’ve got a… Read More »
And then it happens…
The recent changes you made to not get into an argument with your partner ended when you blew up over something minor… You violated your pledge to stop wishing death upon the guy who cuts you off in traffic without a turn signal. You filled your car with an obscenity laced tirade, in turn leaving… Read More »
The problem with Monday
What if Monday didn’t “suck”? What if it only “sucked” because of what we are doing on Monday “sucked”? Job satisfaction in America is low. I don’t need to produce a graph to emphasize that known point. We work, generally, because we need to make money to live. Few people love what they do enough… Read More »