A couple of weekends ago I hosted the yearly men’s group retreat. We got a lodge in central Ohio for the Friday to Sunday. This is a group of guys that have known each other for several years now through the group and have become very close. It was a great weekend. We had time… Read More »
Frustration
Letting Go
Last week I talked about picking battles. When to engage and when to let go.So what about letting go? What’s the good in letting go? Reduced stress.Lower blood pressure.Reduced depression.Reduced anxiety.Reduced fear. More peace for you.More clarity.Less brain fog.Better relationships.More productivity.More fun.More joy. All it takes is a simple mantra when you’re struggling. “At this moment… Read More »
Choose Your Battles Wisely
A wise person I know says “Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?”But what is the line we draw as what to stand up for ourselves and push back or let things go?How do we know when to engage in conflict and when to let things lie as they… Read More »
Are You a Victim or an Adult?
“Life is hard.” “Being an adult is tough.” Truth. You aren’t alone. This isn’t just happening to you. You are more than capable of handling your problems. Even though you may not have the answers right now. You are deserving of love and affection. You are deserving of a good, loving relationship. You have a right… Read More »
Stop Being an A-hole to the People You Love
Note: This is a shame free, non “down with the patriarchy” post. But I am going to briefly talk about how to stay away from being a jerk to the people you love the most. Maybe more specifically, how to be more kind to your spouse. This is where most people struggle. Men, women, it… Read More »
The benefit of being “inauthentic”
You’ve probably heard this before. Fake it till you make it. But what does it mean? Should I pretend to like doing something that I don’t really like for the sake of doing it? How long do I have to fake it? Will I ever not have to fake it? Does this make me “unauthentic”?… Read More »
Calm is contagious
The Navy Seals have a mantra that “calm is contagious”. Just the same that fear and anger are contagious. The vast majority of us are not Navy Seals, and for good reason. The training these service members have to go through and the sacrifices they endure push them to their mental and physical limits in… Read More »
The Problem with Excuses
What’s bothering you right now? What’s in your way today of living the life you’d like to be living? Are you tired? Did you get enough sleep last night? Did your kids wake up at 3am when you had to be up at 5am? Have you ever had something which you weren’t expecting get in… Read More »
Will I Ever Get Better?
Who hasn’t been disappointed in the lack of progress? Who hasn’t wondered if things will ever turn around for them? Of course we know that feeling frustration about things feeling stagnated is a part of life. One step forward, two steps back? Maybe. Maybe not. One of the most common things I hear from clients… Read More »
When is Your “Good” Good Enough?
I hope you’re doing well wherever you are. Life is full of things we can measure. Things like money, grades, scores, can be clearly seen as a result. Good? Bad? Pass? Fail? You don’t have to be a math nerd or a genius to appreciate the value of good old number based subject matters. But… Read More »