I stumbled upon this article the other day. “30 things every grown ass person should stop doing by the time they turn 30”. In the post it lists these behaviors that all grown adults should cease as they turn 30 years old. I found I missed the cut on a few of the author’s requirements… Read More »
Focus and being present
What’s with all the anger and division?
Everyone has to have noticed what seems to be an increase in violence, anger, and division in the world. There’s something tragic to see or hear about everyday. Everybody wants there to be some peace and resolution but there’s no one consensus to how to help. The world is rapidly changing. We can’t deny it…. Read More »
5 reasons procrastination has nothing to do with “being lazy”
The bane of my existence. The thorn in my pride. A pain in the a** (for others). Say it with me. “I am a procrastinator”. Now, for those that aren’t procrastinators, I say congratulations. I have no ill will towards you. My wife is a non-procrastinator and I derive endless inspiration from her tireless energy… Read More »
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t
One moment you’re so sure that your mind and intuition are telling you the right things. “I can’t tell him no. He’s going to be really upset if I do that.” “Don’t take the chance, there’s too much to lose.” “Nobody really cares what I have to say anyway. It’s a waste of time.” The… Read More »
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »
Attending to our emotional hygiene
We really do take our emotional health for granted. We pay attention to our physical health in various ways, such as through diet and exercise, but we continually allow ourselves to cross our own boundaries internally. How often do we allow our own self talk to say things to us we’d never allow someone else… Read More »
Indecisiveness and why making the RIGHT decision is overrated
One of the common themes with my clients that I see is their consistent questioning and doubting of themselves when it comes to making decisions. Decisions with raising kids, decisions with career choices, decisions with relationships, and especially ending relationships. “Will I make the right decision? Will it all work out? Will it happen… Read More »
“Thinking positive” may not always work
Dealing with emotions is probably the most difficult balancing act that we experience in our lives. When we spend too much time and effort avoiding emotions, we are in denial. When we spend too much time trying to fight them, we are angry and resentful. When we exert too much energy taking advantage of the power and leverage… Read More »
7 ways to become a better parent
1. Don’t take yourself so seriously. There are no perfect parents. However, you are the perfect parent for your child. Don’t focus on the ways you “aren’t”. Comparing yourself to other parents is only getting you out of the “now” and what is going on in front of you. Your kids need you here. Now. They don’t need you to focus on what… Read More »
The paradox of noise
I found the following sitting on the copy machine where I work the other day. I thought I’d share it. Paradox of Noise It is a paradox that we encounter so much internal noise when we first try and sit in silence. It is a paradox that experiencing pain releases pain. It is a… Read More »