The balance we seek in life is within us. Not others. To be “in balance” we are in a place where we can allow our feelings to be part of us. This only happens when we are led by our rational logical mind. The rational logical mind, or the “functional adult”, is the part of… Read More »
Boundaries
Letting Go
Last week I talked about picking battles. When to engage and when to let go.So what about letting go? What’s the good in letting go? Reduced stress.Lower blood pressure.Reduced depression.Reduced anxiety.Reduced fear. More peace for you.More clarity.Less brain fog.Better relationships.More productivity.More fun.More joy. All it takes is a simple mantra when you’re struggling. “At this moment… Read More »
Choose Your Battles Wisely
A wise person I know says “Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?”But what is the line we draw as what to stand up for ourselves and push back or let things go?How do we know when to engage in conflict and when to let things lie as they… Read More »
Yes, You’ve Turned Into Your Parents
Let’s get this out of the way. My parents were kids once too. So were yours. And they had parents. The reason we turn into our parents (for good and bad) is that we had to adapt our relational behaviors to meet our needs as children. Love, acceptance, affirmation, guidance, physical affection. We need it…. Read More »
Are You a Victim or an Adult?
“Life is hard.” “Being an adult is tough.” Truth. You aren’t alone. This isn’t just happening to you. You are more than capable of handling your problems. Even though you may not have the answers right now. You are deserving of love and affection. You are deserving of a good, loving relationship. You have a right… Read More »
The benefit of being “inauthentic”
You’ve probably heard this before. Fake it till you make it. But what does it mean? Should I pretend to like doing something that I don’t really like for the sake of doing it? How long do I have to fake it? Will I ever not have to fake it? Does this make me “unauthentic”?… Read More »
Calm is contagious
The Navy Seals have a mantra that “calm is contagious”. Just the same that fear and anger are contagious. The vast majority of us are not Navy Seals, and for good reason. The training these service members have to go through and the sacrifices they endure push them to their mental and physical limits in… Read More »
We Create Our Own Stress and Anxiety
Life has been busier than usual in the Harrison household. We’re finishing up with our moving adventure here in the next few days. By the way, if you’ve never experienced the full selling, buying, and moving in and out of a house experience…wow, you are in for a treat. All of the stress that I… Read More »
When is Your “Good” Good Enough?
I hope you’re doing well wherever you are. Life is full of things we can measure. Things like money, grades, scores, can be clearly seen as a result. Good? Bad? Pass? Fail? You don’t have to be a math nerd or a genius to appreciate the value of good old number based subject matters. But… Read More »
How we take on other people’s “stuff”
I wanted to share something that I tend to see so often in my sessions with couples. Actually, it’s something that we see in people, and ourselves, in general. Everywhere. It’s the dependency we place on other people to make us happy. It’s needing my partner to do something so I can feel a certain… Read More »